Generally speaking, there are two major types of women that are very interested in actually dating a foreigner on these websites. The vast majority are those discussed above who have become embittered with Thai men or have some traits that make them undesirable to the same (e.g. having children, being over 30 years old, not possessing Thai beauty characteristics, etc.).
However, the other segment of Thai women interested in Western men may offer a positive alternative to the dominant paradigm of “last resort” type relationships
These are women who have seen a bit more of the world and feel constrained by the Thai model of romantic relations which tends to require submissive and dependent feminine behavior.
The added bonus is that these women have likely received a better education and speak English more fluently as a result of their time abroad.
Thai culture can be extremely superficial in many ways, with appearance, mannerisms and possessions defining individuals in a way that Westerners typically find somewhat distasteful. While “face” is an important concept almost across the board in Thailand, there is a substantial group who hold it as close to a religion. While they are not actually of a high social class, they desperately want to be, and the result is a collection of the most vapid, ill-mannered and foolishly judgmental women you will find. A good rule of thumb is that if they immediately start asking numerous questions that are thinly-veiled assessments of your wealth, you should try to move on as quickly as possible. These are the kind of women who firmly believe that a person is the sum total of the labels and brands they can afford, and this applies to boyfriends as much as it does handbags.
It may seem like self-defeating advice – this is what most of us came for after all – but you are probably going to be much happier not dating women who are considered very good-looking in Thailand. Although Thai society is changing and becoming more modern in some ways, women are still valued to a large extent on their physical beauty. This is the reason why Thai women look the way they do. It’s a currency, and women who have a great deal of it will almost always expect to be generously compensated in return, whether financially or simply with obsequious behavior.
While the former type may be just fine and even ideal from the perspective of many Western men, there is lot to be said for a dating a Thai woman who probably already has some understanding of how significant the cultural differences are and who is not sloppy seconds
Thai standards of beauty are really quite distinct from the Western ideals, so you may well get a pass on having to deal with a spoiled princess and still find a woman you believe is absolutely stunning. Just keep in mind that Thais gladly accept incredibly selfish and narcissistic behavior from those women whom they deem very attractive (those with exceptionally light skin, delicate East Asian features, a stick-thin figure, etc.). If you go out to any night spot frequented by Thais, then you will no doubt witness the spectacle of a somewhat pitiful Thai guy trying to please the beautiful woman he is with at any cost. This happens because the ideal life for a great many Thai women is to be catered to non-stop, with their expectations increasing exponentially for each additional beauty point above a six. Being with a Western guy only seems to increase the level of reward anticipated by such women that much more, so do carefully consider the opportunity cost before getting involved with a true Thai beauty.